Taking An "L"

Taking a break from the normally song titled posts, bear with me.

So, have you ever loved someone that wasn't good for you? Have you ever felt strongly for someone who seemingly had no problem with hurting you? Have you ever had someone who you love more than life itself, and you know loves you the same way tell you they only want to be your friend? No? It's confusing. extremely confusing.

Our title today comes from the relationship principles of the GREAT Patrice O'Neal. Patrice is a stand-up comedian, but he has an interesting take on relationships, so he has been given his own radio airtime now and then to give advice. Multiple callers have called and asked "Patrice, how do I get out of the friend zone?" Patrice's advice is simple on paper, but complex and difficult to put into practice.

First, you gotta think if you're ok with possibly losing this person forever. If you are, you tell them straight up, I got plenty of friends, that's not why I'm with you. I'm with you because I'm interested in you romantically. Friendship comes out of that, sure, but it's a different kind of friendship. So what it boils down to is this, I want to be with you either romantically, or not at all. Then it's up to them. And if they still say they just want to be friends, this is the most difficult part, you take the "L". Taking the "L" comes from sports, where teams have a "W" category and an "L" category, for wins and losses. And if the object of your desire still says they just want to be friends, you take the "L" and you walk away.

What does this have to do with me? I'm in a taking an "L" predicament as we speak. An ex who doesn't know what she wants keeps playing with my heart and hurting me over and over again. She used up her last chance tonight. She says she "Just wants to be friends" when I know for a fact that's not how she feels about me. So, I'm forced into this predicament. Is it gonna suck? Oh, most definitely. Is it going to hurt? Worse than anything. Is it necessary? It's SO necessary.

So, dear reader, my question to you is this, at what point do you realize you could never be "just friends" with a person (I know I have readership of both genders)? I liked this girl a lot, but my never going back moment was the moment I told her I loved her and she said she reciprocated. I knew at that point, there was never any chance that I could ever be just her friend.